From CNN:
Barack Obama's father was more abusive and violent than the
president was aware of, according to his half-brother, who has written a memoir
about their father. Mark Obama Ndesandjo, who is several years younger than the
President, described their father as a brilliant man. But he was also an
alcoholic, a "social failure" and an abusive husband, he said.
"I
remember the sounds of my mothers' screams and I remember the sounds of
breaking, things breaking," he told CNN. "And I remember that I
couldn't protect her. That's something that no child ever forgets. "He said
he especially remembered a violent episode when he was 6 or 7."My father
actually broke -- came in the door, against the restraining order, and held a
knife to my mother's throat," he said.
Barack Obama apparently met their
father once because his parents got divorced soon after he was born. Ndesandjo
and the president have the same father, but Obama's mother was the second wife
while Ndesandjo's mother was his third wife. Unlike Obama, Ndesandjo grew up
with his father. The president is lucky he never lived with his father,
according to David Maraniss, author of "Barack Obama: The
Story.""It would have been a much more difficult upbringing," he
said.
Divergent views of family history have caused some strain among Obama
relatives, according to Ndesandjo. "Barack I don't think accepts or at
least does not want to know the details of the beatings that occurred in our
family," he said.
"I love my brother. He's a great president.
Sometimes he's a lousy brother. "The White House did not respond to e-mails
and phone calls Thursday about the president's half-brother's book. But in a
2009 interview with CNN, the president said he was not blind to the flaws of
his father. "It's no secret that my father was a troubled person. Anybody
who has read my first book, "Dreams from My Father," knows that, you
know, he had an alcoholism problem, that he didn't treat his families very
well," he said.
"Obviously it's a sad part of my history and my
background. But it's not something that I spend a lot of time brooding
over. "Ndesandjo and Obama have several things in common: similar good
looks, biracial ethnicity, the same father and each had an American
mother.
Despite their similarities, this is not the first time the two have been
at odds. When they first met in Kenya in the 1980s, Ndesandjo was growing up there
and trying to connect with his American roots, he said. At the time, Obama came
from America and was "really looking for that African side of him, and was
trying to find more about himself and his identity. And I respect that. But I
also felt that there was a rejection of a lot of Western culture,"
Ndesandjo said."I felt that my brother -- at that time - felt that I was
too white," he said. "And I thought he was too black.
"When they
first met, Ndesandjo said, his half-brother came on strong. "That imposing
voice, and also that commanding presence -- he was almost like a barracuda with
his questions," Ndesandjo said.But even if their diverging views of the
Obama family's history sometimes put the two siblings at odds, Ndesandjo said
there were also things he was grateful for.
His brother's example, he said,
helped him re-embrace the Obama name that he had long shunned. And some years
ago, when they met after 20 years of separation, they shared some good
times."We laughed, and we hugged, and that was one of the most wonderful
moments of my life. And Barack made it possible," he said.Ndesandjo, who
lives near Hong Kong, hopes to raise awareness of domestic violence when the
book is published in February. Some of the proceeds, he said, will go to his
foundation for disadvantaged children.
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